It was really a welcome and fun twist when Jerry added something new to the garter ritual at his and Maddy’s wedding reception. He had the usual dramatic music while it was being removed from the bride’s leg. Everything seemed as it should be. Then when it came time to toss it over the shoulder he had a dozen wedding garters flying through the air. Only he was cognizant of the authentic one. The holder of the real one would win a bottle of very expensive champagne. Jerry stood up on a chair and revealed that the wining garter had an inscription on the the inside that read “Get ready, you’re next.” It turned out being his younger brother, who wasted no time in re-tossing the garter and sacrificing the champagne.
The fact that more and more young couples are opting to have a unity ceremony these days is a big plus in my mind. It somehow indicates that there is a growing level of awareness of the spiritual side of life. To see the right side of life gaining in recognition opens a door of hope as far as I am concerned. The more ceremonies like these, the better off all of us will be. I just hope it isn’t one of those 15 minute situations and that the softer things keep gaining ground perpetually. They sure beat the grosser trends that are popping up like seeing how much alcohol you can consume or how high a bridge you can bungee off to prove you are somebody (or something) cool.
Back in the 90′s you could go to a Mexican brunch only if you had the local cab company on speed dial. They had servers circumventing the tables filling your wide-mouth, salted margarita glasses to the brim. Since I was merely (AHEM) an observer, it was easy to see why many a soul missed work on the Monday after this over-indulgent brunch. I experienced a flashback to those brunches of twenty years ago when I saw the wedding flutes at Cara’s wedding miraculously refilling themselves. If you turned your head for seemingly one second, your flute was refilled. Too bad there isn’t a way to accomplish this trick so easily with my checking account. Although, I am sure they weren’t pouring Dom Perignon, it sure tasted fabulous. At least that was (AHEM) what I was told.
With all the commotion and concern for everything from the economy and political strife, it is a pleasant relief to know that someone every where on our planet is experiencing something spiritual. Whether it be an elaborate wedding, a sensual sand ceremony or just a simple moment of silence in prayer, we are blessed with the opportunity to go inward and feel the bliss. The hard thing to understand is that even though just about all of us have no desire for war or strife in any form, these horrors are allowed to prevail. If the people of the world can’t use their collective power to eliminate the egoism of the few demons, where will we all end up? It’s a real shame that the ancient Greeks couldn’t convince the entire globe about democracy.
If you attend a dozen weddings, chances are you will see at least eleven of the wedding decorations done in white. It was such a breath of fresh air to attend the wedding of the daughter a Mexican friend of mine. Consuella’s wedding was a celebration of color. The vibrant reds dominated the display but the assortment of many additional colors resembled a Crayola collection. Even the utensils for dining came in different colors. The theme of her decor was “Life is a Rainbow.” The banner stating it was strung across the reception hall. Since the weather was magnificent, the affair was moved onto the huge patio outside the reception hall. When the Mariachis began to perform and the Margaritas began to flow the colorful spirits of the guests added to the flavor of the decor.
When my wife said that our soon to be wedding planning campaign was just cut into less than half the time, I had no idea what she was talking about. I scoffed at her and she practically took me by the ear. She had me sit down in front of the PC and opened up a link. There it was: Weddingstar. I wasn’t convinced that her enthusiasm was warranted. Her way of getting me to share in it was convincing. She asked me to name something we needed to procure for our daughter’s wedding. I said “wedding favors.” “Click” there they were, hundreds of them. Then I said flutes.” “Click” there they were.” By the time I asked for wedding garters, I was sold. This kind of one-stop shopping is right up my alley.
Take a moment to sit back and observe what is going on. This is what I am trying to get across to my moonstruck sister. She is head-over-heels in love with Lance Corporal Simon Smith. Don’t get me wrong, this guy is aces. He might just be the most pleasant person I have ever met. The big problem with me is, I don’t want my sister to have her heart broken. Simon is being deployed to Afghanistan in July and she wants to get engaged before he leaves and wed as soon as he returns. I am trying to get her to set the engagement for when (and unfortunately if) he returns. It would break my heart to hear her discussing wedding favors and such and have her receive terrible news that will destroy her.
If there are any items that I feel have some significance and meaningful value coming out of a wedding celebration, it would be the wedding album and the wedding guest book. These two things are the purest form of memento possible. I guess I could add the video as well. In any case it is the chance to relive the occasion that sincerely has value. Every once in a while I enjoy relaxing in my arm chair and drifting back to those early years before we had any children and started our wonderful life together. All these decades later, my heart is still totally occupied by that young beauty who entrusted her future to me. I am happy to say that I think she made the right decision. At least I hope so.
I am not coming out from under a rock in the Mojave. I am aware that the divorce rate in our great state is higher than Ty Cobb’s batting average. However, I still can state that I will only be married once in my life. Everything connected with my wedding will be one of a kind. I will have unique wedding favors, original music and most of all one wife. I can say this with conviction because I am not particularly fond of the modern trend of dealing with exes. If I fail my children (supposing there are any) I will give my wife full custody in the event of a divorce. I will continue to support them to the best of my ability and put them before myself in every situation.
Elaine and Jeff were a bit contriving when they planned the wedding favors at their wedding. They had an intimate reception that included ten couples and their children. The somewhat manipulative part was the fact that they purposely invited the children to pressure the parents into accepting the favors. They both worked at the animal control center in town and hated the idea that certain kittens and puppies were scheduled for euthanizing. You guessed it. They gave the cats and dogs as favors. Two of the couples were absolutely appalled and simply picked up and left. One guy grabbed the microphone from the DJ and let it be known how underhanded the move was. As far as my wife and I go, the puppy is now a year old.